HONG KONG: It was a quiet Tuesday afternoon at the Sha Tin office of an international courier company when John, a 26-year-old customer-service supervisor, received an enticing Facebook message from a woman calling herself Samantha Cheng.
After introducing herself, the woman asked John (not his real name) to switch to Skype and then invited him to go somewhere private for a video chat. “I went to the male toilet in the office and started video chatting with Samantha,” John later recalled in a police statement.
In marital relationships, exclusivity expectations are commonly assumed although they are not always met.
When they are not met, research has found that psychological damage can occur, including feelings of rage and betrayal, lowering of sexual and personal confidence, and damage to self-image.
According to The New York Times, the most consistent data on infidelity comes from the University of Chicago's General Social Survey (GSS).
Interviews with people in non-monogamous relationships since 1972 by the GSS have shown that approximately 12% of men and 7% of women admit to having had an extramarital relationship.
John received a Skype message from Cheng telling him she had recorded his performance and posted it on You Tube.Depending on the context, men and women can experience social consequences if their act of infidelity becomes public.The form and extent of these consequences are often dependent on the gender of the unfaithful person.Speed dating events can be very nerve-wracking, whereas online chat is far less intimidating.You can chat safely from behind your screen and go at your own pace.